"There’s no such thing as ruining your
life. Life’s a pretty resilient thing, it turns out."
"But this discussion obscures the glaring fact that it’s not actually a reliable sign of “self-respect” to hold out for a commitment, and, in fact, hunger for that wedding ring and the validation it represents causes its own host of problems. Plenty of women clip their own wings, stifle their own opinions, and suffer mightily in hopes of getting a wedding ring, all while making noises about how “sluts” don’t respect themselves."