Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. When you are seeking to bring big plans to fruition, it is important with whom you regularly associate. Hang out with friends who are like-minded and who are also designing purpose-filled lives. Similarly, be that kind of a friend for your friends.”
‘Fat’ is usually the first insult a girl throws at another girl when she wants to hurt her.
I mean, is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’? Not to me; but then, you might retort, what do I know about the pressure to be skinny? I’m not in the business of being judged on my looks, what with being a writer and earning my living by using my brain…
I went to the British Book Awards that evening. After the award ceremony I bumped into a woman I hadn’t seen for nearly three years. The first thing she said to me? ‘You’ve lost a lot of weight since the last time I saw you!’
‘Well,’ I said, slightly nonplussed, ‘the last time you saw me I’d just had a baby.’
What I felt like saying was, ‘I’ve produced my third child and my sixth novel since I last saw you. Aren’t either of those things more important, more interesting, than my size?’ But no – my waist looked smaller! Forget the kid and the book: finally, something to celebrate!
I’d rather they were independent, interesting, idealistic, kind, opinionated, original, funny – a thousand things, before ‘thin’. And frankly, I’d rather they didn’t give a gust of stinking chihuahua flatulence whether the woman standing next to them has fleshier knees than they do. Let my girls be Hermiones, rather than Pansy Parkinsons.
“Wisdom means to choose now what will make sense later. I am learning everyday to allow the space between where I am and where I want to be, to inspire me and not terrify me.”—Tracee Eliis Ross (via pearlfectchassi)
“I think it’s important to find someone who speaks the same love language as you. Trying to translate to someone on another wave length is just not pleasant. I’d like you to understand the ebbs and flow of my words and my actions. Not a fan of exercising too much restraint for the others benefit… when in reality I want to let it all out and for you to simply understand.”—
Cellulite is a result of the body’s natural fat storage structure. It is not a disorder, or ‘toxins’ trapped in the fat, or the result of not eating ‘cleanly’ enough, or not doing the right exercises. It is simply the way our bodies are made.
Plenty of people will tell you that it IS those things, and that if you buy their product you can rid yourself of this ‘unsightly blemish’, but the REALITY is that 90% of women have cellulite, and it is normal, and that the only way to get ‘rid’ of it is to lose all your body fat.
“Who taught you to hate the texture of your hair? Who taught you to hate the color of your skin, to such extent that you bleach to get like the white man? Who taught you to hate the shape of your nose, and the shape of your lips? Who taught you to hate yourself, from the top of your head to the soles of your feet? Who taught you to hate your own kind—who taught you to hate the race that you belong to, so much so that you don’t wanna be around each other? Who taught you to hate being what God gave you?”—Malcolm X (via chocolatehighhh)
“No matter how many times you revisit the past, there’s nothing new to see. Focus on the next step. Just because you’ve made mistakes doesn’t mean your mistakes get to make you. Tame your inner critic, forgive yourself and move on. Let your old problems stay where they belong – in the past. You must make a conscious effort to do this, it won’t happen automatically. You will have to rise up and say, “I don’t care how hard this is. I don’t care how disappointed I am. I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m taking this as a lesson and moving on with my life.”—http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/06/22/10-reminders-worth-reviewing-daily/ (via stillnatural)